Going from a short hall into the kitchen of the Compound, which sits over a cellar from the era when this antiquated building belonged to an apple orchard and not so recently has been converted into a fine dining restaurant, with a chuckle, I’m greeted by the king of the arena Chef Ralph.

Through a squeaky voice he says. “Hey, Sam Do the Watusi.”

The chef resembles a bearded chipmunk wearing a hat that looks like a kernel of corn popped into a puffy cloud.

While the chef is whisking translucent egg whites into peaks of snow, the major-demo walks in wearing a tan three piece suit. He asks the chef. “What”s on today’s menu?” “A little bit of chicken, a little bit of beef, and a little bit of pork,” the chef answers. He is short and round and wears black and white pants. Then he repeats, “A little bit of chicken, A little bit of beef, and a little pork,” as he folds the fluffed egg white into some melted shimmering chocolate. The smug dining room coordinator walks out mumbling under his breath.

“Maybe, I should have mentioned fish,” said the chef with a chuckle.

As I am chopping parsley into green confetti, the international cuisine master preps tarragon, shallots, dry white wine, and vinegar for a Bearnaise sauce. He heats up the potion in an aluminum pot, which will be added to a creamy egg yolk and butter base.

When the concoction is done brewing, the chef shuffles over to the food processor to where I am popping open oysters with a shucking knife.

Standing next to me he takes a sniff of the mixture and crinkles his pudgy nose. A concerned look crosses his rosy-cheeked face.

“Hey, Sam, smell this. Does it smell right?”

I take a whiff of the steaming contents of the pot. Whoa! The pungent vinegar and tarragon hit my nostrils with a burning sensation, causing my eyes to water like a broken cistern. They could use this for smelling salts. It is amazing that something that smells terrible is made into a sauce which raptures ones palate to life, to compliment a savory roasted tenderloin beef.

Recovering from the rancid nasal assault and clearing away the tears from my eyes, I see a chipmunk wearing a double breasted cook’s jacket and a chef’s hat chuckling.

“Hey, Sam, it smell right?” His eyes crease into crows feet as he breaks into laughter.

Finishing the Creamy Bearnaise sauce he whistles a Kinks’ tune bobbing his head to the beat as he schemes up an antic for his next victim. This is my culinary arts mentor Chef Ralph a thirty-something adolescent prankster,




Overlooked Details When Hiring a Family Law Attorney



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Overlooked Details When Hiring a Family Law Attorney
By Sam Vigil

The Attorney

Find a family law attorney who specializes in high conflict custody cases, preferably with knowledge of Parental Alienation

Parental Alienation – when a parent encourages the child to reject the other parent and discourages their relationship.

Verify the attorney you are considering is licensed to practice law, a good track record and reputation. Interested in resolving conflict amiably and not prolonging it with adverse tactics. A good indication is a preference for collaboration law as opposed to litigation.

Collaborative law: Both parties and their attorneys agree to use a binding contract to use cooperative strategies to come to an agreement. When an agreement cannot be reached and it goes to litigation the attorneys agree to withdraw from the case and not assist either party any further.

Judges dislike tactics that promote adversity instead of resolution. and it can hinder your involvement with your children by influencing their ruling. What they want is finality of the case.

Working with Attorney

Be honest with the attorney you hire. This includes divulging what reflects negatively on you. Remember he is not there to judge you, but to represent you to the best of his ability. Failing to fully tell him will hinder him from representing you effectively. When the opposition brings up the negatives he will have to defending you instead of pro-actively retaining your involvement with your children Do not let your pride or shame get in the way of being with your children.

Minor Detail often Overlooked

Ask potential attorneys for their license to practice law in you jurisdiction. I got side swiped overlooking this costly detail.

Anxiously waiting for my attorney while sitting in the gallery the Judge announced my docket number. I had desperately tried to phone him from the lobby earlier when he failed to show up to meet me before the hearing to go over my case.

As I’m standing at the respondent’s table my ex-wife’s attorney state her representing for my ex and her presence for the record. They smirk at me. Feeling vulnerable I tell the Judge that my attorney is not present, but expect that he will be here shortly.

“Do you know why he is late?” He asked.

“I called and left him a message, but have not heard back from him.” I replied.

“Do you know if he is aware that there is a hearing today?”

“Yes, yesterday we made arrangement to meet in the lobby before the hearing.”

My ex’s attorney cut in and asks the Judge to order me to produce contact information for my lawyer and he orders me to do as requested.

I start to panic, my mind whirls with unanswered questions. What is going on? Where the hell is he? What do… ?

At the same time I’m bombarded with unanswerable questions of theirs. Why is he not present? How did you come about obtaining his services?

Before I can my equilibrium back my ex’s attorney addresses the court. “Your Honor, I looked up the respondent’s attorney in the registry at the State Bar Association and found no record of him. I also believe that the respondent hired him knowing that he was not licensed to practice law. Therefore, we ask that he be held in contempt of court and serve time in jail to the fullest extent of the law.”

“Request denied and ordered a continuance.”

Thankfully, the Judge saw through her ploy and recognized that I was swindled.

Hiring this scam artist could have landed me in jail. In addition, cost me money, time, and delayed involvement with my children. If I would have asked for his license to practice law I would have saved myself from this ordeal. Pay attention to the small details.

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Be a Proactive Parent Against Parental Alienation



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By Sam Vigil

First things First

Contending with the complexities of Parental Alienation is frustrating. To help reduce frustration you need to acquire the tools and prepare yourself to combat this form of emotional abuse. But, before you get started on increasing the chances of maintaining a relationship with your children there is one thing you must understand. Which is the only thing you have control of are the choices you make. Getting a respectable judgment on a parenting plan will depend greatly on making beat choices that will influence the outcome you seek.

This takes being honest with yourself and the question you need to ask yourself before you pursue a parenting plan, ” What is your true motive for seeking a plan?”

Seeking custody to retaliate against your ex for leaving and keeping the children away from you is a normal impulse, but those are wrong reasons to go to court. Getting even only adds fuel to the fire; perpetuating a vicious cycle of conflict where no one wins. The victory you feel for avenging your anger will only be temporary.

The right reason for seeking involvement with your children is to fulfill your responsibility of being a parent. If your purpose is to even the score; stop, do not read any further. You are doing it for the wrong reason. But, if you are in it to help your children’s wellbeing continue on, They deserve to have the love of a responsible parent.

Knowledge is Power

Understanding Parental Alienation, the family laws of your case, and yourself is where you will gain power. This knowledge will give you the wisdom of where to apply your energy to optimize good results.

A resource I found extremely helpful in understanding the nut and bolts of Parental Alienation is Amy J. L. Baker’s book “Adult Children of Parental Alienation; Breaking the Ties that Bind.” She explains what it is, how it’s implemented, and gives the in-depth makeup of whom engages in alienating their children from the target parent.

Identifying the tactics and strategies enables you to respond to the provocations from your ex in a proactive way. This can reduce the negative effects it may have on the parent-child relationship. You will also be better equipped to educate court officers and your attorney to the alienation that is occurring which is hindering you from having a real relationship with your children.

Along with identifying the strategies look from your ex’s prospective to gain an understanding why she is alienating you. Is it because of a narcissistic personality, insecurity, pain, or a combination of them? Understanding the reason(s) can give you a way to moderate the conflict.

You also need to identify the triggers that cause you to react negatively. This will keep you from falling into the trap of getting even, which will take focus away from having involvement with your children.

The next thing to do is find an attorney in family law who specializes in high conflict custody cases with a good track record and reputation.

As you become educated with Parental Alienation, family law, and work with an attorney tend to your wellbeing. Get proper rest, eat a healthy diet, and do activities you enjoy. This will rejuvenate you and keep you from bogging down. Be either proactive or reactive the choice is yours.

Article Source: Be a Proactive Parent Against Parental Alienation

Spinach the Prince of Vegetables



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By  Sam Vigil  

Belonging to the goosefoot family (Amaranthaceae Chenpodiacene) spinach (Spinacia Oleracea) derived its name from the Persian name aspanakh meaning green hand which was described by a twelfth century Arabian Ibn-al Awam as “the prince of vegetable.” author of Kital-al Agriculture (Book of Agriculture). It is believed to have originated from Persia, modern day Iran from where it was introduced to North Africa then migrated to Europe, eventually making its way to the United State in the early eighteen hundred.

There are three common types of the leafy green; savory such as Bloomsdale that is dark green with deep creases on its leaves, semi-savory which are hybrids like Catalina with a crinkly surface, and flat leaf like Red Cardinal with a smooth texture that is usually harvested as baby greens.

Edible cooked or uncooked this delightful vegetable is readily available in supermarket fresh, frozen, and canned. Based on a 2000 calorie diet uncooked per 1-1/2 cups serving size spinach has 40 calories with 19% fiber of the recommended daily value. Frozen it has 20 calories with 8% fiber per 1/3 cup serving, and canned has 30 calories with 8% fiber per 1/2 cup. Aspanakh is ideal for weight lose diets because is has dietary fiber with a low calorie count, no fat, and the iodine in it helps maintain a normal metabolism.

The drawback of aspanakh is the oxalates in it can crystallize causing bladder and kidney stones if you have issues with either one you might want to consider avoiding this vegetable.

Even though it may cause stones the green hand of Persia has a high nutritional value that provides health benefits for the immune systems cardiovascular system, gastro intestinally, neurologically, and vision. The nutritional value of Spinacia Oleracea are vitamins A, B1, B2, B6, C, E, and K; the minerals it has are beta-carotene, calcium, copper, foliate, iodine, iron, magnesium, manganese, niacin, phosphor, potassium, and zinc; also, the Phytonutrients alpha lipoic acid, chlorophyll, Co Q10, glutathione, lutein, omega-3, and zeaxanthin have flavonoids which behave like antioxidants. This super food has the nutrients that contribute to the over all heath of your body.

The oxidation caused by metabolizing creates free radicals that damage cells by stealing electrons from their molecules. The antioxidants in spinach protect proteins and enzymes in the body from the attack. Vitamins A and C hinders the assault of free radicals by combating the oxidation of cholesterol. These rogue molecules play a major role in hyper-oxidation and inflammation.

Although, Alzheimer’s decease reduces foliates in the body spinach can increase it and there is evidence that it minimizes the decline of motor function due to aging. The anti-inflammatory compounds in the nutrients help with arthritis, asthma, atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries), and migraine headaches. There is also evidence they assists in slowing down the decline of brain function caused from aging.

Magnesium assist in lowering blood sugar levels, lutein alleviates inflammation of atherosclerosis, Co Q10 supports white blood cells, and the overall maintenance or the heart is supported by the foliates in spinach. In addition, spinach protects the mucous membrane of the stomach reducing the risk of ulcers. The foliates aide the colon in the prevention of cell damage and beta-carotene and vitamin C combats the destructive free radical from causing harm. The antioxidant, also cleanse and deodorize the gastrointestinal track. Lutein and zeaxanthin are potent anti-cancer agents. It has been shown that the extracts from this plant slow down the division of cancer cell in stomach cancer and helps with coronary heart disease.

The antitoxins, antioxidants, and enzyme cofactors in the glutathione support the maintenance of the immune system. Protecting the eyes from ultra violet rays the Phytonutrients alpha lipoic acid, lutein, and zeaxanthin reduce the risk of cataracts. Vitamin K fuses calcium to bones and the minerals copper, magnesium, manganese, phosphorous, and zinc are building blocks for strong healthy bone that can prevent osteoporosis in the long run.

To get the full benefits of Spinacia Oleracea it is best to eat it as fresh as possible and uncooked. If you most cook it sauté or boil it at a minimum, the longer it is cooked the more of its nutrients are depleted. In addition, raw spinach will lose half of it nutritional value in about eight days. With all the nutritional benefit of spinach eat a helping green hand of aspanakh the prince of vegetables.

© Samuel Vigil 2011 

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Parental Alienation – Does Symbiotic Fusion Have a Role?



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 By Sam Vigil

When parents have a deficiency in their perception of there child as a separate individual from themselves it is called Symbiotic Fusion. By not distinguishing the separateness of identity, the parent has a distorted view of the parent-child relationship. She maintains in her mind that they are one in the same with their children in thought, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors. With symbiotic fusion parents have difficulty distinguishing where they end and the child begins. The ambiguity gives the fused parent a belief that the child’s needs and wants are the same as hers. The consequence to the child is when she expresses her needs to the parent they go unheard, which can hamper the child’s self-esteem, development, and lead to feelings of unworthiness. The child thinks to herself, “This must be why my needs aren’t met, no one cares about me. I’m only here to make my parents happy.” What kind of value do you think a child that believes this has of themselves? Although, we know that there is a connection to our children genetically and emotionally, we must acknowledge that they are individuals and appreciate their separate identities. This is accomplished with intentional dialogue, tending to their needs and having appropriate boundaries in the parent-child relationship in place. Developing a healthy bond with our children takes intentional dialogue, which consists of mirroring, validating, and empathizing with them. This will give us a relatively good perspective of their needs and help you identify any of your needs that may be interfering with your child’s development and can be work on with the help of a good support network. Though our children are a blessing in many ways and provide us with a sense of acceptance, it is our role to support our children not the other way around, we are the parents. Being unaware of our children’s needs can blind us to the psychological consequences it can have on them and keeps both the parent and child in a distorted view of what a healthy relationship is, at best and at worst, estranged.

Signs of a Symbiotically Fused Parent

  • Views their child as an extension of themselves.
  • Believes their reality is the only one that is legitimate.
  • When conflict arises with their child they believe their response is to the child’s behavior when in reality they are actually reacting to their own childhood needs, which were not meet.
  • Believes what their child experiences are only valid when it is congruent with what they are feeling.
  • Does not recognize that children develop in stags and believe all children are the same when developing.
  •  The symbiotic fused parent cannot see their part in conflicts that arise with their children.
  • They believe it is because of something they did wrong and are the cause of the problem.

Parents that are symbiotically fused to their children are self-absorbed in projecting their own childhood needs; which were not fundamentally meet by their parents when they were a child, onto their own children. They react to their children in a way as so to heal their own wounds and with the illusion of being able live the way they wished they would have when they were children, through their children; instead of, interacting with them to meet their child’s needs. Based on the premise of this article it seem that there are similar parallels with parental alienation and parental symbiotic fusion; such as, the parent’s beliefs, attitudes, behaviors, and the anxiety it produces in the children. With this premise I have a two-part question for mental health professionals. Does Parental Symbiotic Fusion play a role in Parental Alienation and how? Your response is appreciated.

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Counter Parental Alienation



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 The Joy Behar Show with Amy Baker .

Counter Parental Alienation.

Help Your Child Through Anxiety



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By Sam Vigil

When your child’s behavior changes and is interfering with her development she may be struggling with anxiety. The behaviors that are interfering with her development and singles that she is having difficulty coping are clinginess, over-dependence, shyness, withdrawing, fearfulness, recklessly fearless, and uneasiness in social situations. Anxiety can affect them negatively in a number of areas, such as, academically because it makes it difficult to focus, socially a child does not conduct herself in a manner congruent with situations, and over or under reacts to social issues. Anxiety can physically affect them with abdominal pains and irregular bowel movements, chest pains and irregular respiratory and heart rate, and headaches and dizziness. Psychologically it can cause fearfulness, hopelessness, loneliness, and nightmares.

Anxiety is perceived fear of danger triggered by traumatic events, consistent stressors, and distorted beliefs. The fear stems from is feeling alone because a friend moved away, someone close has died, uncertainty of wellbeing due to divorce, and pressure from parental alienation. If you are going through a divorce, custody battle, or parental alienation is present evaluate your motives for helping your child through anxiety. Your cause should be to help her and not to align her to your side of the battle or to hurt your ex-partner. Resist the temptation of criticizing or blaming her for the difficulty your child is going through. Keep the conflict between you and your ex.

Use sound reasoning, discernment, and be equipped with are an understanding of her temperament and the developmental stage she is in. This will help you determine the best approach in helping her. Do not be judgmental of the way your child is feeling. This will only exasperate her anxiety and will stymie your effort. Remember her feelings are real. Once you have determined that your motive is to help her through anxiety you need to be prepared to put in the time and effort with patients.

Start by providing an environment where she feels safe to express herself freely. Then listen to her carefully without interruptions to her statement for fears and concern that may be under the surface; unless you need clarification, and then acknowledge her feelings with empathy. This will indicate that you care and build her trust to confidently approach you for support. In addition, help her with critical thinking to come up with solutions in handling anxiety in the future. If she perceives that you are not truly there for her she may become resentful and withdraw from you making it harder to help. While helping your child through her anxiety, developmental stage, and critical thinking allow her to go through the process at her own pace. Give her the time to cope. Rushing her will just add anxiety to her concerns and hinder her development.

Article Source: Your Child Through Anxiety

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she’s on the warpath about the multitude of punishments non-custodial parents are subject to for missing a payment. As I and many others have said before, those punitive measures make no sense because they prevent what they claim to promote – payment of child support.

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Parental Alienation Syndrome and How to Counter Its Three Levels of Parental Alienation



By Sam Vigil

Parental Alienation; the programming of a child by a parent to turn the child against the other parent has three levels of alienation mild, moderate, and severe. As the alienation increases the negative behavior of the children towards the targeted parent also increases. The percentage of children having access and parenting time (visitation) with the alienated parent decreases.

In a case study of thirty highly conflicted divorce and custody cases, submitted by the courts involving fifty nine children was evaluated to determine the existence of Parental Alienation Syndrome. This is when the child aligns with the alienating parent, adopts their views, joins in the defaming of the target parent and rejects that parent citing frivolous and irrational reasoning. Countering Parental Alienation Syndrome will take the knowledge of Parental Alienation and finesse.

This must be confronted to increase the chances for the target parent in reuniting and maintaining a meaningful relationship with their children. Janelle Burrill compiled, analyzed and evaluated the data for one year (2000-2001) from the cases that were submitted from a two year period (1998-2000). In the study twenty two children were listed under the mild alienation category, seventeen in the moderate category, and twenty in the severe.

The children listed under the mild alienation category show that eighty two percent of them expressed affection for the targeted parent. None of them had any anger towards or denigrated (disrespect and reject) the parent. Ninety five percent had parenting-time with the target. With mild alienation there is some cynicism of the target parent. This generally arises from a persons lack of restraint in making negative remarks about the target. They tend to react in this manner when they are hurt, angry, and feel personally attacked. For example, when parents first separate mom is feeling anxious and will implicitly convey to the children that their father is a bad person suggesting that it is not safe to be with him. She may say something to the effect of, “If you get scared or are not having fun call me right away and I will come and get you and bring you home.”

Dad may say something like, “Remember to tell your mother that you want to spend more time with me,” Suggesting that their mom is trying to separate them from each other. Generally, this behavior from the parents is done so they can look like they are the better parent to be with and that something is wrong with the other one.

In the scenario with mom the children start to question if they are safe to be with their father. With dad they can start to believe their mother is trying to estrange them from their dad. Usually when you point out the alienation to the alienating parent they feel ashamed that their behavior is negatively affecting the children and that they did not have enough self-control to refrain from distributing alienation.

Parents and children in this category normally have a good relationship. The parents who hands out the alienation usually are unaware they are doing it. It is a behavior that has not been addressed so it can be corrected. These parents are usually willing to modify their behavior to benefit the children. The recognizable denigration traits in mild alienation are sighing in disapproval, rolling the eyes in contempt, ignoring, disrespect, snide or sarcastic remarks, and defaming the target parent. To defuse the alienation explain to the children why people will make those kinds of gestures and bad-mouth another person. Let them know it comes from when they feel disrespected, rejected, hurt by a person, and that they lack self-control and respond in undesirable ways to validate themselves.

In the moderate alienation category the percentage of children who had parenting-time with the target parent drops significantly from ninety five percent down to sixty five percent. The same percentage of children also expressed affection for the target parent with fifty nine percent of them expressing anger towards the target and joining in the denigration of that parent.

With moderate alienation the alienating parents have difficulty keeping their composer when thing do not go their way or feel threatened. Like the belief their counterpart is trying to take the children away from them. They will increase the alienation when their anxiety escalates in an effort to keep what they perceive is rightfully theirs. When they lose control they go ballistic disregarding appropriate boundaries, including the fear their behavior produces in the children.

When, they calm down the alienating parent has a hard time taking responsibility for their actions. But, there is hope. Some of these parents in this category can be persuaded to develop their self-control with anger management, therapy, and parenting classes. These parents love their children and want to be a good parent and be viewed as one. But rarely will they volunteer to get help. They blame the other parent for their problems and believe the other parent is the problem.

If they do not modify their behavior then the only remedy is to get a court order for therapy and treatment. With moderately alienated children are hesitant to spend time with the target parent. They have some fear of the target parent due to the alienating parents repeatedly defaming the target in an effort to get the children to get to accept their views about the target parent and to align with them.

To remedy this level of alienation with the children there needs to be an environment where they feel safe and comfortable with the target parent. A therapist can arrange to provide for this. The parent then need to listen to the children without being judgmental, empathize with their feeling, acknowledge their concerns, and let them know the conflict is between the parents and they do not have to choose either parents side. They should not have to reject one parent to please the other parent. They should be able to love both without having a loyalty conflict.

Bring to the attention of the alienating parent the harmful effects the alienation is having on the children because they are conflicted on how to please both parents without displeasing either one of them. Moderate alienation ascends from emotional charged events. The parent feels they have been wronged and react destructively. Afterwards they are embarrassed of their behavior and might be willing to work on not involving the children to even the score for the wrong they believe was done to them. If there is unsatisfactory improvement and willingness on the part of the alienating parent in correcting their behavior, which is often the case, the target will need to get a court order for family counseling and treatment.

In the severe alienation category forty five percent of the children expressed affection for the target parent, ninety percent had anger towards the target, and sixty percent join in the denigration of the parent. Only fifteen percent of the children had any parenting-time with the target parent. With severe alienation there are no-holds-barred attacks on the targets character and the alienator is obsessed with destroying the relationship the children has with the target parent to inflict emotional pain on the target. Because they have deep-rooted distorted beliefs about the target parent and operate from a delusional system of thinking they are hindered from listening to reason.

There is no effective way for treating severe alienation. To minimize the influence of the alienating parent and harm the alienation causes the children is to reduce or remove them from the care of the alienating parent which will take legal intervention. At this level of alienation the children aligns with the alienating parent, adopt their distorted views about the target, and join in the campaign to severe the relationship they have with the target parent. This is where Parental Alienation is transformed into Parental Alienation Syndrome.

A couple of signs of severe alienation are the childrens refusal to participate in parenting-time with the target parent even if it is court order, an automatic alliance with the alienating parent when conflict arises between the parents, and they join in rejecting and defaming the target parent. They back up their claims with weak, frivolous and illogical explanations, and insist that their views are their own and are not influenced by the alienating parent.

The way to counter severe alienation is to obtain a court order for a parenting plan, therapy, and participation in treatment. It is necessary to get the order so the therapist can work with the family to resolve, reduce, or at the very least stymie the alienation. At this level of alienation the alienating parent objective is to hurt the target parent by any means including using the children.

The children need to be shown that they have been exposed to the alienation, participated in the denigration, and how it negatively affects the relationship they have with the target parent. Once the cause of the children’s alienation from a parent is identified then an expert mental health professional can provide an appropriate treatment plan to reunite the parent and children. Article Source: [] Parental Alienation Syndrome and How to Counter Its Three Levels of Parental Alienation

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On October 9, 1994, the following statement appeared in a Dear Abby column.

The statement was made during a divorce hearing, by the presiding judge. A portion of the transcript was provided to the newspaper by the attorney who was present on the case, with a plea, for all parents going through divorce to heed the advice of the judge.

No matter what you think of the other party – or what your family thinks of the other party – those children are one half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an idiot his father is, or what a fool his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child that half of him is bad.”

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When parents have a deficiency in their perception of there child as a separate individual from themselves it is called Symbiotic Fusion. By not distinguishing the separateness of identity, the parent has a distorted view of the parent-child relationship. She maintains in her mind that they are one in the same with their children in thought, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors. With symbiotic fusion parents have difficulty distinguishing where they end and the child begins. The ambiguity gives the fused parent a belief that the child’s needs and wants are the same as hers. The consequence to the child is when she expresses her needs to the parent they go unheard, which can hamper the child’s self-esteem, development, and lead to feelings of unworthiness. The child thinks to herself, “This must be why my needs aren’t met, no one cares about me. I’m only here to make my…

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Is Parental Alienation Syndrome a Mental Disorder? (via Lawdiva’s Blog)

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Is Parental Alienation Syndrome a Mental Disorder? While psychiatrists and other mental health professionals are debating the legitimacy of parental alienation syndrome, family law lawyers across North America see examples of it every day. In my experience the circumstances that give rise to allegations of parental alienation follow three typical patterns: 1. A parent who has been a victim of spousal abuse, either physical, mental or emotional, who refuses to permit a young child's father or moth … Read More

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